countdown central: the boston experience, a monkey on my back and wondering where i’ll go next
“Be obscure clearly.” ~E.B. White
Lately, it’s felt like “countdown central” in my head.
First, I’ve been counting down the days till the apartment lease is up in Boston.
Actually, by the time you read this, I’ll be leaving town in less than 24 hours… (The plan was to take off next week, but due to some circumstances, gotta move out earlier than expected.)
One roommate has already moved out earlier this summer, so the gradual undoing of our living space (affectionately called “the frat house”) in Boston’s old Southie neighborhood has felt like a long time coming.
But where to next?
Well, I’m pit-stopping back in Rhode Island for a while, two or three months perhaps, in order to get the book launched and some other projects off and running. I’m taking off from Boston for a while, and for a few reasons:
- I loathe 12-month leases and don’t want to imprison myself to one location with another one for a while
- I love Boston, but need a change of scenery
- Now 3 years since graduating college, it feels like “that time” when you start making moves more independently from what everyone else is doing around you.
But beyond the apartment countdown…
…I’ve had that book thing to think about, too! Writing Lead Without Followers has been far more stressful and arduous than I figured it would be.
After all, I’ve been thinking about writing this book for 3 years, and working my ass off to build an expansive digital platform to establish myself as being “worthy” of a literary agent and book contract with a traditional publishing house.
Not surprisingly, the decision to self-publish and handle every facet of publication has felt like an incredible weight.
There’s a monkey on my back, and I’m ready to shoot the bastard.
(No monkeys were harmed during the typing of that miniature, blog-confined outburst.) Just the other day, I somehow pulled a muscle in my upper back/neck area — a weird little injury that I attribute to an abundance of tenseness and anxiety built up in my shoulders and neck. Is a masseuse tax deductible?!
Why stress at all?
Well, it comes from the difficult balance of self-imposed deadlines and pushing the book to its long-awaited publication, while remaining patient to ensure that the book will really be finished by the time it’s published.
Outside of pushing the envelope, I have some real deadlines now — i.e. speaking at American University this October, where Lead Without Followers will be required reading(!) for an undergraduate Political Science course — that obligate me to ensure that the book is published by October 1st, 2011 at the very latest.
My original goal of September 1 is now more likely the week of September 19-23, 2011. :)
Stresses aside, I’ve really enjoyed writing the book.
I’m excited and ready for the best possible book to be done, polished, printed and to reach your hands. It’s been a long time coming. I’ve been working hard. And I can’t wait for this message to be shared with the world.
Of course, that’ll be a great accomplishment — before worrying about how you’ll respond to it, yourselves!
Between leaving Boston and the book’s release, that reminds me…
I’m going on a book tour across the country, but I’ll need you (yes, you reading, there!) to help me pull that off.
Instead of driving, which figures to not be very economical, I’ll be flying to a list of destinations — where, exactly, will 100% depend on your volunteering.
I’ll need your help to organize a formal or informal meet-up, a speaking gig, a beer summit, a dance party, or in-person high-five session. Whatever it is, no matter how big or small, if you promise to put in the time and organize an event, I’ll promise to get there.
First, some must-hit destinations:
- I’ll be in Washington D.C. for a few days around October 12 2011 to speak at American University about Lead Without Followers, and then,
- I’m planning to be in Los Angeles for BlogWorld Expo L.A. in the first week of November, and anywhere in between.
With that in mind, I might buy JetBlue’s BluePass that operates out of Long Beach, CA, and use the SoCal airport as a hub for some serious Midwest / West / West Coast travel from October through the end of November.
What do you think of that idea? Any advice from experienced travelers out there?
…Oh yeah, and after that?
I have no idea where I’m going or what I’m doing next! But I do want to move somewhere different, if only for a few months — down south or out west, for example. Over the last few weeks and in preparation for this, I have been:
- downsizing all of my possessions,
- donating most of my already-pathetically-small wardrobe to charity, and
- selling off other junk that I don’t need
This short move to Rhode Island figured to be a smart pitstop in order to get some projects off the ground:
With 18in18 launched, I need to get the book finished and released, and continue to work on my Reclaim Leadership course with Molly Mahar — the launch of which we both recently decided to push back a bit.
I’m hoping (praying) that these will help sustain my finances and allow me to travel more, learn more, explore more, teach more, and write more. It feels like it’s time to get on the move, and I hope I can count on your help to make all of this happen.
Your advice, help, and inspiration are always welcome.
Lord knows, I’m gonna need it.
And I ain’t shy about admitting that.
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Brandon
I feel you, brother. I love how you are ‘leaning into the uncertainty,’ to borrow a phrase from Jonathan Fields.
Let me know if there’s anything I can do to help. We can certainly do something in Atlanta, but it better be quick – I’m packing my bags also. :) Perhaps we’ll cross paths somewhere along the journey later this year.
I hope the move goes well. And keep being awesome! :)
Aug 17 2011 / 09:08 am
Dave Ursillo
Is it on to Portland for you at last, Brandon?
I want to make a stop through Atlanta on my way out west, for sure. Let me know whereabouts you're planning to end up!
"Trust the unknown path and walk it all the same"!
Aug 17 2011 / 08:08 pm
Jenna
You always got a couch to crash at in PDX, hubby. I hope to see you in LA too!
Aug 17 2011 / 02:08 pm
Dave Ursillo
Wouldn't mind coming back to PDX soon, Jenna :)
Aug 17 2011 / 08:08 pm
Jenna
Just as long as you come with beer and flowers!
Aug 18 2011 / 10:08 am
Wendy
I am no techy; I just read your article included in Lisa Robbin’s course “today.”
I still have so much to learn. (60′s child)
I never properly thanked you for your message yesterday, so here I am today to sincerely say…THANK YOU:)
You are an amazing young man. Bless you for all you do and are!
Aug 17 2011 / 06:08 pm
Dave Ursillo
Thank you humbly Wendy, please feel welcome back again very soon.
Aug 17 2011 / 08:08 pm
Marina Reede
okay…i would HIGHLY recommend living in key west! :) i lived there for almost 3 years. it’s very spendy. but you can find great opportunities not to mention the neatest people! and you can “get off the rock” up to miami for other happenings. i’m in minneapolis for now and would love to see you here for your book tour…good luck with everything! you’re doing such a fabulous job of being real and getting your wonderful stuff out into the world. :) i’m enjoying 18in18! good thinking. (ps might i suggest secluding yourself in an ocean-looking shack/boathouse something somewhere to finish your book???) on my list of impossible things is a writing retreat in italy . smile.
Aug 17 2011 / 10:08 pm
Dave Ursillo
All amazing suggestions Marina, thank you! And I'm so glad that you're enjoying 18in18!!
I'd love to shack up in Hawaii some time to write books :) I've been to the Keys before, never been to Minneapolis but have heard great things about the city (especially in summer!). I will try to make it out there this fall...
Aug 18 2011 / 04:08 pm
Jade Craven
Oh, i could help set up a little something shoul you, say, come out to Australia :-) ROI would prob suck but hey, Australia rocks :-)
Aug 18 2011 / 01:08 am
Dave Ursillo
Wow Jade, now I've got international requests to visit both the UK AND Australia! I would really love to visit Oz.
Maybe come early 2012 I can get some long-distance trips going -- will definitely need your help for that excursion :)
Aug 18 2011 / 04:08 pm
Greg Berg
Dave, I’ll be happy to help in any way needed for a SoCal stop on your tour. San Diego is only two hours from LA. I can take photos and shoot video if need be or anything else to assist (and will promote on Radio Enso). And if you make your way down to SD (it’s an awesome city!), I have a ton of recommendations/picks for things to do/see/eat. Just let me know!
Aug 18 2011 / 11:08 am
Dave Ursillo
Greg, that is such an amazing offer, THANK YOU. Video/photog would be absolutely epic.
My amiga Molly Mahar is also down in San Diego so I'd love to come visit this fall!
I might have to just get this JetBlue BluePass thing outta Long Beach just to have some time to pop around SoCal and the West Coast!!
Aug 18 2011 / 05:08 pm
Aaron Andrews
Dave,
Best of luck with everything your doing man. Your ventures are very inspiring, I will be following closely. It would be nice to see you out in the Philadelphia area!
Aug 18 2011 / 10:08 pm
Dave Ursillo
Thanks Aaron! Would love to come down to Philly. I might be hitting up most of the east coast come the new year actually. I'll definitely keep you in mind -- if you could help out that'd be huge! :)
Aug 23 2011 / 08:08 pm
Adrienne | Experience Life Fully
Dave, congrats on your speaking gig!! Required reading on a book that’s not even written yet?? I’m impressed! How did that come about?
I’m really looking forward to your book, as I’m sure it’s going to filled with new and interesting concepts. :) Book tour sounds like a great idea. I’d love to help out–not sure how exciting Dayton, OH would be for a stop though…maybe Columbus?
Aug 23 2011 / 08:08 pm
Dave Ursillo
Thanks Adrienne :) Well, in a very full-circle kind of story, an old friend from my D.C. days who is a professor at American University has been keeping track of my progress as a writer and he asked if I'd be interested in integrating the book's concepts into his course.
You can imagine what my answer was :) PSYCHED!
Hey, I've never been to Ohio at all so I wouldn't mind a visit! I'm trying to figure out if my main east coast swing will be over the winter after my west coast leg, or if I should wait till the spring...
Aug 23 2011 / 08:08 pm
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