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  • Trapped in Your Head? How to Escape Your Mind

    By Dave Ursillo on Jul 8, 2010
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    Trapped in Your Head? How to Escape Your Mind

    “Anywhere is paradise; it’s up to you.” ~Unknown

    Enough is enough. It’s time to get out of your own head.

    Escape the endless anxiety and over-thinking, that constant stream of thought that dreads and fears; the inner voice that continually harps upon all that is “wrong” in your life and “bad” in your world.

    Negativity entraps goodness, creativity, love and freedom within the walls of one’s own mind. Within those walls, fear breeds ego and the ego thus resides and flourishes.

    Have haunting thoughts of worry and fear become so regular and routine that they now validate your very existence? Have you come to live, breathe and die by way of thinking and over-thinking, every single day? Does the concept of being worry-free terrify you?

    Endless anxiety, a constant stream of dread and worry can become so normal to someone that they have begun to entrap you within the confines of your own mind. Incessant and never-ending thought can become the status quo, like an alcoholic with a perpetual buzz.

    You’re stuck. You’re trapped. But simply by your choosing (remember, there is always choice) you must decide to get out of your own head.

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    1. ABANDON

    Abandon what you hate, leave behind what you can afford to let alone.

    Destroy that which enslaves you. Quit the job you hate, change the life you lead, and love more than yourself. Regrets of the past ought not hinder your decision-making today on behalf of your better tomorrow. Escape the confines of your thoughts and strive to live, strive to awaken, strive to emerge, strive to fully be whole and human once again.

    2. RELINQUISH

    Relinquish your fear of what can’t be controlled.

    Be relieved that so much in life can’t ever be fully understood or explained; that what is not for you to control is by the talent and curiosity and passion of another, his or her mission to embrace in hope of one day understanding and explaining to you. Turn off the never ending thoughts that haunt you. Dismiss your worry, choose to change. Fear nothing. Embrace everything.

    3. SEE

    See the world for its beauty and its wonder.

    Breathe in the air. Really breathe it in. Hold each gasp deep within your lungs until it pinches. Smell the nuance within each breath. See that everything is precious and finite, find the beauty in its simple existence. Appreciate the ebb and flow of thin cloud overhead, how tree limbs dance in the breeze, that the sun even shines. Realize the world that surrounds you!

    4. KILL

    Kill your ego.

    Question every decision you make. Ask whether your choices, your words, your actions, and all your behaviors serve to bolster your self-image or nurture your sense of humility. Always choose humility. Always side against the ego. Every choice made in the name of humility is one made on behalf of compassion, happiness and peace. Every decision made on behalf of the ego serves to incite fear, anger and resentment. Kill your ego. Choose to live for others instead of your simple and mortal self. Live among the world and its people or die having neglected to love them.

    5. DECIDE

    The decision is yours alone to make.

    Abandon what is wrong. Relinquish what you fear. See the wonders of life. Kill your ego and escape your mind. Enough is enough. Step outside of your head, awaken to the day, and become fully immersed in the world that surrounds you.

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    Pooja

    Hi Dave,

    I happened to come across your blogs during my reserach on political thinkers but I must say you are an excellent and thought-rovoking writer and that too at such a young ade!

    Kudos and keep upthe good work!

    Pooja
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    Dave Ursillo

    Hi Pooja and welcome! I'm so happy you came across my blog and hope you feel warmly invited to return again soon! :)

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    Abraham

    To master the mind or the matrix is the ultimate frontier to attain Godhood. If the use of mind started this reality by separating herself from the nothingness of Love, by scaping from the use of mind we will return to our original source: LOVE.

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    Dave Ursillo

    Thank you for your comment, Lou!

    Considering that this piece is quite the departure from my usual writing style here on DaveUrsillo.com, I'm very glad that you found the principles as applicable toward creating positive changes in one's life!

    Dave

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    Lou Macabasco

    Nice 5 principles you have here in your post. Abandon, Relinquish, See, Kill and Decide. All are needed to create a change in one's life.

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    Dave Ursillo

    Thank you for the compliment!

    We all tend to get caught up in our own heads... it's natural. Our worlds begin and end within the confines of our minds. But we need to remind ourselves to snap out of it once in a while, if not often and repeatedly... and wake up to the world around us.

    Dave

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    Francesca

    Excellent post once again Dave, especially love the notion of getting out of your own head and out of your own way :)

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