I am a Millennial
I am a Millennial.
I was born unto walls falling. I was born as borders and limitations receded, a world that was shrinking and becoming entwined.
I was born into a truly changing world.
I took my first steps in days when my parents debated The End of History, an age of triumph and freedom that all but proved the experiment set forth by founding fathers unquestionably true. I grew as tyrants were stomped by a global force bearing colors of freedom, in a day when economies boomed toward endless boundaries. In these days, the Dollar was second to none, and, just as boundaries and borders shrank, so too were limitations of profit and monetary gain all but erased.
From youth I grew in a gilded age.
Within this globalized age of worldwide business and a World Wide Web, I learned of instant communication as not a privilege and convenience but natural state of being, a birthright of a technologically-superior society. All I’ve known is this age of advancement and breakthrough, growth and prosperity. Were it not for history, I might assume that this is how life has always been.
I grew older knowing no better.
And as Spartans of old were aged by force, for decades I aged under regimented education. To both Spartans and Millennials, during these years a powerful momentum grew within. For them, it grew toward the promise of certain war and dreams of glory in honorable death. For us, the momentum grew toward the promise of a world that needed our help — a world wherein our dreams would lift our wings to whatever ends we so desired.
To dream was to take flight.
From the structured education of our childhood, we Millennials raced on to commencement as if toward a cliff’s end, where upon breaching its steep edge would we jump and take flight, embarking upon the greatness we’d been promised. We were told our dreams were not figments of fancy, but undeniable reality not yet manifested in life. And so in cap and gown we jumped together to a world that awaited.
I was born to fly, and dared to soar.
Though quickly after jumping, we entered a world quite different. This world is one still controlled by a generation quite different: The Baby Boomers are a generation born from war. They came of age by way of assassinations, divisive movements, controversial war, and global crises — days when the very fabric of society forever changed. They grew up without innocence, disenfranchised and disillusioned.
The context in which we grew — like any other generation — has defined the Millennial generation and become an inseparable component of our being. The world we inherited has defined our collective nature. The regimented education that we grew within for two decades oriented us toward lofty goals and aspirations, ones that we never thought could fail. And truly, why would we?
“The Quarterlife Crisis”
Every generation is born of circumstance. While upon this reading our differences may seem so apparent, the generational gap between Millennials and Baby Boomers has spawned what some have called “The Quarterlife Crisis:”
“…Unrelenting indecision, isolation, confusion and anxiety about working, relationships and direction is reported by people in their mid-twenties to early thirties who are usually urban, middle class and well-educated; those who should be able to capitalize on their youth, unparalleled freedom and free-for-all individuation. They can’t make any decisions, because they don’t know what they want, and they don’t know what they want because they don’t know who they are, and they don’t know who they are because they’re allowed to be anyone they want.”
A catchy play-on of the “Midlife Crisis,” the Quarterlife Crisis is phrased to represent a young Millennial adult who, having recently entered “the real world” after college, confused and distressed about their life’s direction. But what the Quarterlife Crisis truly represents is a strong cultural gap between the Baby Boomer generation and their children, the Millennial generation.
In our young adulthood, the Millennial generation is desperate for a higher level of self-determination: the ability to freely following one’s grandest dreams – those dreams that, during two decades-worth of education, we aspired to fulfill – regardless of the possible financial impact (because to a Millennial, money has always been less a priority, for it has always seemed so abundant). Exacerbating the Quarterlife Crisis is the fact that the world of growth and prosperity that we grew into has recently come into severe balance.
For Baby Boomers, most struggles in life were on behalf of the socio-economic advancement of their families and their children. Having been so successful (in light of this economic crisis, perhaps too successful?), their children are now equally willing to struggle and sacrifice, but less on behalf of socio-economic ends, and more on behalf of fulfilling the goals and aspirations that adults were perpetually encouraging for years.
A Generation Gap That Keeps Growing
Were it only so simple to deny one’s Millennial nature and refuse that instinct to soar toward endless horizons. If it were a choice to deny this drive, a Millennial would choose easily to strive only for monetary sums and amounts of things, which are measurable and countable. For when dreams alone reside within one’s heart, they become a burden to bear. Such goals cannot be added up or compounded and society so often beckons physical proof of accomplishment.
Herein is not a series of complaints, but observations of a world that this generation has inherited. Further, to understand the generational gap might help pacify the Millennial generation’s collective confusion or “Quarterlife Crisis.” The problem lies not within our generation’s will to succeed, or our willingness to strive, struggle and sacrifice. The difference is a major generational gap, a difference in culture between us and that of our parents.
The means that we will use to fulfill our goals is the same, but the goals are drastically different, because we were born and raised amid such drastically different circumstances. Insofar as we are a product of our age, our predecessors mustn’t expect the Millennial generation to emulate their own behavior or values, but only hope that the end product of our dreams holds as much merit as we claim.
We’ve been born unto different worlds. And so, while human at the core, our Millennial culture demands that we yearn for something more. We strive for deeper meaning. We long to enrich ourselves and the lives of others. We demand to defy logic and boundary and the limitations of so-called reality. We are, if nothing more, a generation of flight.
Why would a child of this age strive for anything less?

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Katie
Interesting that “flight” can connote the achievement of something lofty and boundless, and it can mean running away from problems, throwing off reality rather than doing the heavy-lifting to realize a solution. I think both are fitting here.
Jul 11 2009 / 12:07 pm
ashleymarie521
I really enjoyed reading this article and your other work on here…you have a great writing style..it's intellectual but not too stuffy because it's emotional and philosophical at the same time…I can't wait to read more!
Sep 23 2009 / 08:09 pm
millennial makeover
Great post. Have you read any of the posts on “Quarterlife” in Forbes. Did you coin the term?
Dec 04 2009 / 04:12 pm
Dave
Hi millennial makeover!
Thank you for the comment and compliment, I’m glad you enjoyed this post. I have not read Quarterlife posts in Forbes but will be sure to check them out! Also I did not coin the term — I actually first came across it in the book mentioned in the post called “The Quarterlife Crisis.”
Dave
Dec 06 2009 / 05:12 pm
Anna
Another post that really speaks, and I particularly like Katie’s take on it. “They grew up without innocence, disenfranchised and disillusioned.” Our lack of innocence, or tendency to high soaring aspirations and flight will be our exact undoing. This world came out of the generation of our parents, it does indeed have limitless possibilities with what we are left with but until we understand the generation we came from we’re doomed to the Spartans
Dec 23 2009 / 05:12 pm
Dave
It’s so interesting that two consecutive generations were born into worlds of such stark contrast. One wonders if we can find and hold onto a healthy medium for following generations.
Dec 23 2009 / 10:12 pm
greg
Thanks for explaining clearly. Im gen X and after watching that i understand a bit better the unique Y gen struggle.
Good luck Dave, i wish you guys all the best. Sometimes you have to reach the lowest floor before you can be truly ready to fly. But when you do, it’ll be all the more greater.
Oct 05 2010 / 08:10 pm
Francesca, SummerHillsBB
Thanks Dave for sharing your insights into what it means to be a Gen Y in 2010. I like the description of quarter life crisis and millenial. What you describe is also the classic struggle of any young person in any century finding their place in the world they live in, and as they mature into adults, finding out that the world around them is not run by their own generation, and that the rules are not made up by their own generation, but older generations who grew up amidst different rules alltogether. It’s an affirming time for Gen Y now to find their feet and at the same time keep their dreaming and “no limits” ethos, but it is also a time for Gen Y to understand other generations as well and what they grew up with. It’s really about us all understanding each other.
Oct 06 2010 / 07:10 am
David
I am a true millenial, having been born in 1979. The hell with those who say I am gen x – I am tech – savvy, open – minded to ALL kinds of diversity, and into the latest music, which makes me gen y. In fact, I believe that ANYONE can be a millenial if he/she has these characteristics. To be gen y in 2010 means to be an activist for progressive causes of all kinds and to reject the narrow – mindedness that our parents and grandparents had or still have (such as opposition to same – sex marriage and green technologies, support for traditional gender roles, buying mansions rather than giving all that money to the poor, and racism).
Nov 23 2010 / 03:11 pm
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