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- Forging Meaningful Connections with Others
  
  By Dave Ursillo on Jul 20, 2010
  
  “…Making a connection with men and women through humor, happiness and laughter not only helps you make new friends, but it actually is the means to establish a strong, meaningful connection to people.”
  
  Last week, I had the honor and pleasure of having a written contribution posted on the popular personal growth blog, LifeOptimizer.org.
  
  In the piece entitled, 7 Ways to use Humor to Make New Friends, the mission was simple: explain to readers how being positive, utilizing humor and embodying a lighthearted attitude are naturally attractive and can thus be the means to create new friendships with …
  
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- How to Cultivate Compassion in Every Human Interaction
  
  By Dave Ursillo on Jul 16, 2010
  
  “What if we strive to cultivate genuine meaning in every human interaction?”
  
  No sooner than my asking the question above on Twitter did a complete stranger, perhaps in his mid-forties, walk past me and begin to speak.
  
  “Good morning,” the man remarked. “Beautiful day, isn’t it?”
  
  “No complaints,” I replied in agreement.
  
  Book in lap, I found myself on a park bench that morning, overlooking a small public beach. On some days, usually in the early mornings, I like to seek out places of solitude to read or just be in the quiet. Doing so helps me when I’m lacking …
  
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- Becoming a Balance for Others: Are You a Counterweight?
  
  By Dave Ursillo on Jun 24, 2010
  
  “Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony.” ~Thomas Merton
  
  Are you a “counterweight,” someone who helps balance friends and loved ones during their times of need and emotional instability? Or do you unintentionally exacerbate someone else’s emotional imbalance?
  
  In Find Balance through a Steadier Range of Emotion, the first part of this two part series, we discussed the concept of “balance” and how to discover and develop a stronger sense of balance within ourselves.
  
  We also learned about scientific research that indicates that with practice our brains can actually physically rewire parts …
  
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- How to Focus on the ‘Self’ Without Being Selfish
  
  By Dave Ursillo on Jun 1, 2010
  
  “Your soul is all that you possess. Take it in hand and make something of it!” ~Martin H. Fischer
  
  If living for others is selfless and good, than is focusing ourselves selfish and bad?
  
  Although thinking and acting exclusively for ourselves is indeed selfish, to place focus on one’s own self-improvement and personal development–becoming happier and more positive, fostering a stronger and more compassionate spirit, striving to be a better person–is not selfish because bringing out the best of your Self will certainly benefit friends, family members and all of those whom you encounter.
  
  When we are happy, those …
  
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- How to Alleviate Pain and Suffering (By Giving to Others)
  
  By Dave Ursillo on May 27, 2010
  
  “The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful.” ~Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th Dalai Lama.
  
  I learned a long time ago that the best way to alleviate one’s own emotional pain and suffering is to–perhaps, counter-intuitively–not focus on ourselves, our pain or its causes; but instead to focus on others.
  
  Specifically, when we focus on giving to others, the emotional anguish with which we’re struggling so mightily suddenly becomes weaker. It lessens and lessens and gradually fades away completely.
  
  Is focusing upon giving to …
  
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- Thoughts are a Reflection of Ourselves
  
  By Dave Ursillo on Apr 29, 2010
  
  “The remarkable thing is that we really love our neighbor as ourselves: we do unto others as we do unto ourselves. We hate others when we hate ourselves. We are tolerant toward others when we tolerate ourselves. We forgive others when we forgive ourselves. We are prone to sacrifice others when we are ready to sacrifice ourselves.” ~Eric Hoffer
  
  Sometimes, the endless nature of “thinking” can feel like a burdening weight upon our minds and our souls; a constant stream of consciousness that never ceases and from which we can never escape.
  
  However, when we hone the ability to …
  
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