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- An Open Letter to a Suffering Soul
  
  By Dave Ursillo on Feb 10, 2011
  
  “An open heart writhes for all those who suffer…”
  
  In the last few days, I’ve found myself talking quite a bit about suffering with friends, even relative strangers.
  
  Sometimes the conversation drifts philosophically to the concept of suffering itself. But more times than not, the suffering we discuss is very specific and personal: the acute effects of experiencing loss of life, loving relationships gone awry, wreaking mental and emotional havoc within.
  
  Having endured it myself (who hasn’t!), I’m grateful and humble that I can discuss suffering and try to offer my advice while not, at this point and place …
  
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- How to Love Yourself in a World Designed to Foster Self-Hate
  
  By Dave Ursillo on Oct 14, 2010
  
  “Self-love is not opposed to the love of other people. You cannot really love yourself and do yourself a favor without doing people a favor, and vise versa.” ~Karl Menninger
  
  How do we love ourselves for who we are? Why should we bother? Is “self-love” conceited? Narcissistic? Delusional?
  
  What is it about “loving oneself” that seems like such a simple concept but remains so elusive? Does the very term “self-love” misrepresent the important concepts of self-acceptance, self-confidence, and inner peace?
  
  These are the questions that sprung to mind as I contemplated an email from a reader, Eileen A., who …
  
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- How to Gain By Letting Go: 3 Practices to Undo Attachment
  
  By Dave Ursillo on Sep 20, 2010
  
  “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need.” ~Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching
  
  Attachment is a natural byproduct of our materialistic society.
  
  For me, materialistic attachment began with my extensive collection of G.I. Joe toys when I was young; I prized each action figure as if they were real heroes!
  
  But attachment in our society goes beyond materialism and childish attachment to things. Attachment is glorified in epic stories of love and romance in movies and books: drilling the idea …
  
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- Regret: Harness It or Holster It, but Don’t Be Hampered By It
  
  By Dave Ursillo on Jul 1, 2010
  
  “Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves: regret for the past and fear of the future.” ~Fulton Oursler
  
  Should we “believe in” regret, embrace natural feelings of remorse and shame about the past and harness them as lessons that can help us grow, mature, emotionally develop and thus propel us toward greater destinations, tomorrow?
  
  Or should we choose to not believe in regret, but instead “holster” or stash away and neglect those feelings of remorse and guilt about our pasts, understanding them as unfortunate-but-necessary vessels that have brought us to this point in our lives, today?
  
  To Regret or …
  
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- This is Renegadeism: Live, Defy, Believe, Thrive
  
  By Dave Ursillo on Jun 4, 2010
  
  “March on. Do not tarry. To go forward is to move toward perfection. March on, and fear not the thorns, or the sharp stones on life’s path.” ~Kahlil Gibran
  
  The word “Renegade” is derived from the medieval Latin word renegatus — the perfect participle of renego, meaning “deny.”
  
  Here on DaveUrsillo.com, “Renegadeism” is an unwaveringly positive and defiant attitude embodied by ordinary men and women across the globe who consider themselves to be distinctively different than the masses: we who are “dreamers” and “believers,” who strive to be achievers of a bigger goal — of a …
  
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- How to Focus on the ‘Self’ Without Being Selfish
  
  By Dave Ursillo on Jun 1, 2010
  
  “Your soul is all that you possess. Take it in hand and make something of it!” ~Martin H. Fischer
  
  If living for others is selfless and good, than is focusing ourselves selfish and bad?
  
  Although thinking and acting exclusively for ourselves is indeed selfish, to place focus on one’s own self-improvement and personal development–becoming happier and more positive, fostering a stronger and more compassionate spirit, striving to be a better person–is not selfish because bringing out the best of your Self will certainly benefit friends, family members and all of those whom you encounter.
  
  When we are happy, those …
  
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- Struggle Separates Dreamers from Doers
  
  By Dave Ursillo on May 9, 2010
  
  “A dreamer is one who can only find his way by moonlight, and his punishment is that he sees the dawn before the rest of the world.” ~Oscar Wilde
  
  What separates ordinary daydreamers from doers and achievers is the difficult process that must be endured to see one’s dreams through to reality.
  
  By their nature, dreams can dissuade their very pursuit because of how much willpower, strength, and ability it takes to achieve them.
  
  A dreamer eventually and always comes to realize that the pursuit of one’s dreams and all that is required to see them through to reality is …
  
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