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- An Open Letter to a Suffering Soul
  
  By Dave Ursillo on Feb 10, 2011
  
  “An open heart writhes for all those who suffer…”
  
  In the last few days, I’ve found myself talking quite a bit about suffering with friends, even relative strangers.
  
  Sometimes the conversation drifts philosophically to the concept of suffering itself. But more times than not, the suffering we discuss is very specific and personal: the acute effects of experiencing loss of life, loving relationships gone awry, wreaking mental and emotional havoc within.
  
  Having endured it myself (who hasn’t!), I’m grateful and humble that I can discuss suffering and try to offer my advice while not, at this point and place …
  
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- A Day at Walden Pond: Society, Solitude and Two Strangers
  
  By Dave Ursillo on Nov 29, 2010
  
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  EARLY IN THE MONTH OCTOBER IN 2010, I made my first visit to Walden Pond.
  
  I took the short trek to Concord, Massachusetts alone, feeling compelled to escape both the world and my own mind. I had been feeling beckoned to escape, to run, to seek out answers in solitude to unasked questions.
  
  Can we find answers to …
  
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- One Suffering: Beyond Uniqueness, 6 Hardships We All Endure
  
  By Dave Ursillo on Sep 30, 2010
  
  “We are each unique, but if more people shared their personal stories of suffering, we would realize truly how similar we all are.” ~On Twitter this week
  
  One subject that I continually revisit (and really try to articulate in many different ways) on DaveUrsillo.com is that each human being is unique, specific, distinct, and special.
  
  Just as no two human faces are exactly the same, no two human beings are exactly the same. Similarly, every person is unique insofar as we each possess a distinct and different set of interests, natural talents and skills, and passions that …
  
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- Becoming a Balance for Others: Are You a Counterweight?
  
  By Dave Ursillo on Jun 24, 2010
  
  “Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony.” ~Thomas Merton
  
  Are you a “counterweight,” someone who helps balance friends and loved ones during their times of need and emotional instability? Or do you unintentionally exacerbate someone else’s emotional imbalance?
  
  In Find Balance through a Steadier Range of Emotion, the first part of this two part series, we discussed the concept of “balance” and how to discover and develop a stronger sense of balance within ourselves.
  
  We also learned about scientific research that indicates that with practice our brains can actually physically rewire parts …
  
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- How to Alleviate Pain and Suffering (By Giving to Others)
  
  By Dave Ursillo on May 27, 2010
  
  “The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful.” ~Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th Dalai Lama.
  
  I learned a long time ago that the best way to alleviate one’s own emotional pain and suffering is to–perhaps, counter-intuitively–not focus on ourselves, our pain or its causes; but instead to focus on others.
  
  Specifically, when we focus on giving to others, the emotional anguish with which we’re struggling so mightily suddenly becomes weaker. It lessens and lessens and gradually fades away completely.
  
  Is focusing upon giving to …
  
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- The Greater Life Theory
  
  By Dave Ursillo on Aug 27, 2009
  
  Is there a single function — some shared, practical purpose — that every human has in life and that every human has always shared?
  
  Is there a universal trait that each human possesses, residing beyond each individual’s preferred purpose in life? If so, is this purpose one that transcends each person’s desires, to a level that could be called an “instinctively human characteristic?”
  
  Though impossible to answer, it is a unique question to ponder.
  
  It is a generational trait, as I have come to understand it, that the most pragmatic function of individual life is for a member of the …
  
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